My Story and My Why
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Finding a Therapist Shouldn't Require Extraordinary Courage
I remember the weight in my chest that night in 2018. My screen glowed in the darkness as I searched "therapist near me." My girlfriend (now wife) had been gently suggesting I get help for weeks. I knew she was right, the depression had been showing up too often.
The search results filled my screen with an alphabet soup of credentials. PhD? LCSW? LPC? None of it made sense to me. Just jargon and sterile profiles that told me nothing about who might understand what I was going through.
I chose someone who seemed approachable and spent the next morning rehearsing what I'd say. My stomach churned as I dialed. The response was quick and final: "I'm not accepting new clients." No alternatives. No direction.
I tried again. And again. Each rejection landed like confirmation of what my depression whispered: that I wasn't worth helping. After the fifth 'no' in less than a week, I closed my laptop, I gave up.
In that moment of frustration, I had a clear thought: I would have paid someone—a lot—to handle this for me. To explain what all these credentials meant. To find someone who was actually available. To make this process simple when I had little emotional energy to spare.
I did what most men do, I shut down. I found ways to cope, to function, to show up for work and life in whatever way I could. But that idea stayed with me.
Eighteen months later, during another difficult period, I finally built up the courage to try again. This time, after another frustrating search, I connected with a therapist who was actually a good fit for me.
That earlier realization that I would have hired someone to help me became Virsentio's foundation. The system isn't built for men like us, and I knew it from the first rejection. No man should have to navigate this broken system alone.
We personally match men with therapists who understand them, handle every detail, and guide them through each step. Because finding a therapist shouldn't require extraordinary courage when you're already doing the brave thing by reaching out.